Do you have a birth plan?
I really don’t like using the word “plan”. If you have a “plan” for your birth you may end up being really disappointed, if your baby is not delivered in the way you “planned” for it to happen.
However, I do believe that clear communication is really important and a birth preference document can help everyone involved. (note the word “preference” rather than “plan”)
If you have specific preferences for your birthing experience then the people in the room need to know about it. Your partner needs to be on the same page as you and be able to speak for you.
I encourage every mum to write down their preferences on to paper. Print it out and talk it through with your partner. Give a copy to your ob, midwife and have a spare copy in your hospital bag.
Both of my birth experiences did not go to “plan”. However when things took a turn both me and my husband knew exactly what we wanted to do because we had already discussed it.
For example, when Nia was born she had to be transferred to ICU. Our preference was that my husband would go with the baby and stay with the baby at all times. I knew this. He knew this. So, at the time it was a quick easy decision to make and we both felt calm about what was happening.
While I was alone in recovery… I felt reassured that my husband was with our baby and I knew where he was.
Click the download button to get an example copy of a birth preference. This document is similar to what I used for my two births. Feel free to edit and change this document to make it your own. Id highly encourage you to discuss each point with your partner, midwife and obstitrician.
I’d love to hear your thoughts about this. Please share in the comments.